Parents will always be parents

Parents will always be parents

Children always suffer when their parents separate. They love both mother and father and don’t want to lose either. In this time of emotional turmoil, it is not always easy for parents to understand their children’s needs. They have trouble distinguishing between their problems as a couple and their responsibility as parents. Fighting in front of the children and competing for their favour is emotional abuse. Children’s feelings must not be manipulated. They will feel guilty and insecure, and lose the capacity to trust in their feelings.

Only a few therapists and services help children cope with their parents’ separation. The Clinic for Child and Adolescent Psychiatry («Kinder- und Jugendpsychiatrie Baselland») offers group therapy for children from 8 to 12 years of age. In a total of ten sessions, the children have the chance to express their feelings about their parents’ separation. They acquire coping strategies and learn that they are not alone in their experience.

For more than ten years, the Educational Psychology Service of Basel-Stadt («Schulpsychologischer Dienst Basel-Stadt») and the Child and Youth Services Basel-Stadt («Kinder- und Jugenddienst Basel-Stadt») have been offering group training sessions for children, also from 8- 12 years of age. The «Birmann-Stiftung» also offers a counselling service for children. «Pro Juventute» runs a hotline for children and adolescents that is open around the clock. «Kinderlobby Schweiz» offers legal advice for children and adolescents with a free initial consultation.

Switzerland

Addressen and links

  • Website for chilcren affected by divorce or seperation: www.scheidungskind.ch

  • Children and teens can call the free hotline 147 of Pro Juventute around the clock for help and counselling in difficult situations*: www.147.ch

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* = Services explicitly offered also in other languages than German.

Aargau

Addresses and links

  • We currently know of no offer in the Canton of Aargau.

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Basel-Landschaft

Addresses and links

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Basel-Stadt

Addresses and links

  • Schulpsychologischer Dienst des Kantons Basel-Stadt: www.edubs.ch

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Solothurn

Addresses and links

  • Currently we know no offer in the Canton of Solothurn.

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Book Recommendations

„Glückliche Scheidungskinder: Was Kinder nach der Trennung brauchen“

Von Remo H. Largo, Monika Czernin, Piper Verlag, 2014

 

«Eltern bleiben – Informationen und Tipps für Eltern in Trennung», Leaflet by Pro Juventute (free): info@projuventute.ch