The parent who does not receive physical custody is usually granted visiting rights, so that he or she can maintain the relationship with the children. In principle, the parents are free to organise visiting rights according to their needs. However, the child's well-being always has priority, and there is no overall solution that determines what is best for the children. Quite often, the children live with one parent and visit the other every other weekend, and spend two to four weeks of the holidays every other bank holiday together.
If the parents are unable to organise visiting rights amicably, they can apply for educational assistance with the guardianship authority. Fathers often find it difficult to make good use of their visiting rights. Usually the mother is granted child custody – and some women use this prerogative as a weapon against the fathers. They cancel visits or claim the child is ill. Sometimes they tell the father that the child does not want to see him. It can also be the other way round: Some fathers don’t show up to pick up the child, or aren’t prepared to cater to the children’s needs. But remember: Parents must stay loyal to each other whenever the children are concerned. They must both do their best to enable the children to stay close to both parents.
The «Interessengemeinschaft geschiedener und getrennt lebender Männer» (IGM, interest group of divorced men) supports fathers in difficult situations. The «Verein für verantwortungsvoll erziehende Väter und Mütter» (VeV, association of responsible fathers and mothers) helps parents maintain close contact with their children after divorce. If the parents are unable to talk, or one parent is unable to maintain visiting rights, the «Verein Begleitete Besuchstage Baselland» (accompanied visiting days) organises regular meetings between children and their parent. The meetings take place in a comfortable and child-friendly atmosphere, and in the presence of a guardian or qualified childminder.
Addresses and links Verein begleitete Besuchstage Aargau: www.bbt-ag.ch _____
Verein begleitete Besuchstage Aargau: www.bbt-ag.ch
Addresses and links Begleitete Besuchstage Baselland, Tagesheim Binningen: www.bbt-bl.ch _____
Begleitete Besuchstage Baselland, Tagesheim Binningen: www.bbt-bl.ch
Addresses and links Begleitete Besuchstage Basel-Stadt: www.begleitetebesuchstage-baselstadt.ch _____
Begleitete Besuchstage Basel-Stadt: www.begleitetebesuchstage-baselstadt.ch
Addresses and links In the Canton of Solothurn several organisations offer accompanied visiting days. Contact your local social service for more Information: www.so.ch _____
In the Canton of Solothurn several organisations offer accompanied visiting days. Contact your local social service for more Information: www.so.ch